We had the very worse. We have respected and helped everyone. Lives are different. Things work different way for different people. I guess that’s why people ignore and avoid others. But through this struggle of staying on my own, I have discovered one thing, what people really want from you.
You have got to give them the gift of magi. You will win their hearts. I am not talking about the comb or the watch. I am talking about making your loved ones feel like they are somebody. Like they have respect, honor and dignity. Make them feel valued. Before gifting them something, ask them what they really want. Treat them like they are special everyday.
Tell them you love them, hug them, swallow your anger, stay calm and patient with them, when they are in need, be there for them. Don’t do that long distance call thing. Be right next to them. Treat them like they are your favorite person. Use their own flavor of personality, try.
When you value others, they value you or not, there will be happiness in your life because you did something good to someone you love. That’s the gift of magi, that’s what they really want. To be somebody. And getting that from one person is more satisfying than the wealth of the entire world.
So how do people feel valued?
They feel valued when they are taken in on important conversations, meetings and discussions. When there are two people talking and there’s a third person present, whatever you are talking about, include them in it. Give them a warm greeting, a smile with a gentle look. Treat them like you would want to be treated yourself. Never tell them they can’t do something. If they really can’t, tell them and teach them lovingly. Like you really want good for them.
Try to not complain or demand too much. Expect from them the little you can do yourself to them. Learn to become a gentle woman or man. And love them not for your lust but for who they are, flaws and perfection.